Life is short.
Little thing before I start my rant. Don’t Blink by Kenny Chesney. Listen to it if you haven’t. It’s such a good song and really hits home when you think about it. Here’s some of the main lyrics:
Just like that you’re six years old and you take a nap and you
Wake up and you’re twenty-five and your high school sweetheart becomes your wife
You just might miss your babies growing like mine did
Turning into moms and dads next thing you know your “better half”
Of fifty years is there in bed
And you’re praying God takes you instead
Trust me friend a hundred years goes faster than you think
So don’t blink”
I feel like so many of us take for granted the time we have with people, myself included. The short amount of time we do have together, should be so cherished, because eventually things will change. That’s the only thing we can guarantee.
So, here’s my motherhood PSA (rant really).
Your baby will always be your baby, but he may not always want to curl up in your arms and fall asleep. He probably won’t always think you’re the coolest person and won’t always want to tell you everything either. He won’t always want your advice. He won’t always want to play with you. And one day, he won’t even be around to make messes.
So again, Life. Is. So. Short. Be uncomfortable and let him sleep in your arms again, because one day, your bed will seem slightly bigger and a lot lonelier. Hug him a little longer, hold him a little closer, because soon he will be pushing you off in front of his friends. It’s okay to give in and relax. Play cars. Go to the park. Build a fort. Watch his favorite movie. Buy his favorite snacks. Go on a walk. Do his favorite things with him, that will make him happiest. Listen to his stories, even if you know every word. Put his favorite song on repeat, because one day, it’ll only give you memories. Show interest in his 50th drawing of the day, even if it looks exactly like the last stick figure, it’ll build confidence. Maybe he breaks something or tracks mud through a clean house, mistakes happen. Let’s reassure our little ones that accidents are human and they are not perfect, nor is anyone. He is little and lives in a simple world; nothing should make him sad and the littlest things will make him happy. Instill happiness while life is simple, he won’t always think like that.
On the other side of things, here’s something else to remind yourself, because we also shouldn’t spend our life dwelling on mistakes.
You’re a badass.
You created a child. You raise him, you teach him, you protect him, you love him, you care for him.
When you’re having a really bad day and feel like a really bad mom. Remember that to him, you’re still the coolest. You make everything better in those little blue eyes. You kiss the boo boos just right and somehow, it takes all of the pain away. You definitely have the funniest faces and nobody can play hide and seek as good as you. You know just the right position to make him comfortable. You also make the BEST cereal in the morning. You always remember his favorite blanket and drinks. You always turn on exactly what he wants to watch. You somehow understand everything he’s thinking and he doesn’t have to say a word. Your hugs and kisses feel like they’re made for him. You are so good at making animal noises, it’s crazy. You make bath time so much fun and you pick the most comfortable clothes. Maybe you knock him down or elbow him in the head on accident, (because we’re all human), but guess what? He sees no wrong, he will still go to you for comfort, because you do it the very best.
In his world, you can’t mess up.
You’re perfect mama.
You are everything.
Take these moments in, because before you know it, they will be good old days and you’ll wish you had just a few more. Time is flying, remember to appreciate the little things in life, but don’t beat yourself up over them either. Live in the present and have fulfilling relationships with those around you.
Happy Mother’s Day to every mama out there. You make a difference and are such a blessing.
P.S. If you made it this far, I love you.